Part 14 of 31 Things Americans Should Think About Before Moving Abroad: Building Community Abroad

By Darien Wilson

Moving abroad means leaving behind your support system—so how do you build a new one from scratch?

If you live abroad and you get sick, who brings you soup? You don’t just need friends or soup—you need a whole new community.

The Difference Between Friends and Community

We’ve already talked about the importance of making friends when you move abroad.

But building community abroad is a little different.

Friends are the people you invite over for dinner.

Community is your neighbor recognizing your dog and bringing it home when it gets out.

Community is your neighbor recognizing your dog and bringing it home when it gets out.

If you're a mid-career professional moving to a new country—especially one where you don’t speak the language—this kind of support may take more time and effort to build. But having a local network isn’t just nice—it’s essential for truly feeling at home.

Why Community Matters

Want to know why your street is suddenly blocked off? Your local neighborhood group will know.

Looking for secondhand furniture, a babysitter, or a tool to borrow? Community groups are gold.

In case of an emergency—like a power outage—knowing your neighbors is more than helpful. It’s vital.

In the Netherlands, for example, neighborhood WhatsApp groups are how things get done. My neighbors have given me things like a free leaf blower and a desk—and I’ve passed along plenty of items I no longer needed.

These groups help people:

• Share resources

• Stay informed about local events and emergencies

• Connect over common concerns

• Build trust and familiarity

My street even has community-building activities like a walking dinner in the summer, where each course is served at a different neighbor’s home.

Building Community Abroad Takes Intention

After 3.5 years of living here, I can tell you: having a community makes life easier.

It’s not just about socializing. It’s about feeling connected to where you live.

Yes, making friends is important. But knowing your neighbors—and becoming part of the local fabric—is just as essential. It helps you feel safe, grounded, and more confident navigating your new home.

Tips for Building Community Abroad

• Join local WhatsApp or Facebook groups for your neighborhood or town.

• Show up to events, even if they’re small or informal.

• Give as well as receive. Share resources, recommendations, or help when you can.

• Look beyond other expats. Locals are your neighbors now. Include them in your circle.

• Be patient. Community takes time, but the payoff is worth it.

Final Thought

If you're planning to move abroad, don’t just think about making friends—think about building community abroad.

Look for ways to get involved. Make the effort to meet your neighbors. It’s not just about finding people to hang out with—it’s about belonging.

Did you find this helpful? Are you planning a move abroad? Work with me to make your move from a place of clarity and organization.

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